A few weeks back I was spotted by a dear friend from my youth. I was so surprised as I didn’t even know she was living in my county. We made plans (which were cancelled and rescheduled a few times) and finally we met up for a perfectly lovely brunch. Meeting up made me realize how many important friendships can fall by the wayside as we pursue careers and just become busy living our lives. Also I found that distance is a huge factor in who I keep in touch with most, despite the fact that there aren’t any long-distance phone charges to pay with my phone plan, and email is free. Once people get married and have children or get involved in Masters, PhD’s and Doctorate programs, even the time for a good phone conversation can be hard to come by. I now appreciate that if I had trouble making time to meet with a friend who does live very close, it’s a miracle when I do manage to see anyone else who lives more than an hour’s drive.
Nevertheless, when someone does make the effort to reach out, it’s all the more important to reach back. And if no one is reaching out, maybe it’s your turn. If you have a friend who pops into your mind but whom you haven’t spoken to in a while, give him or her a call or send an email today, but more importantly, make plans for some face-time. If you live far apart, that’s all the more reason to do it now so you can make plans for any vacation time you will have this summer.
As they say: Make new friends but keep the old, for one is silver and the other gold.